Oh my head!

Was it a full moon today??? Both of my kids didn't want to get out of bed today and took about 15 minutes to haul their butts out of bed at about 7:55. They are supposed to be out the door at between 8:20 -8:30. ha ha, that wasn't going to happen.  Well, from there my oldest came out in his blanket and layed on the carpet and started in on his "I'm not going to school rant." Usually when he does this I am able to get things on track by getting him to eat first so in about 10 minutes after telling me I know what you are doing and thats a step to get ready for school (he's onto me). He finally decides to eat.  Then guess what??? Back on the carpet in his blanket, blanket over his head.  I tried to reward,  I tried to discipline. If you don't get ready for school you are off your games for a day then a week. Nothing was budging the boy. Usually if a reward doesn't work, banning him off his games works.  He does get mad but he usually get ready and goes right away. NOT TODAY! I finally asked what happened at school that you don't want to go. The deal with the school is that he stays after school for homework club everyday to get his work that he typically doesn't get done in class done.  Well, yesterday(the first day back at school since he was sick last week) they kept him from having PE, his favorite subject, and half of lunch to do his work. Wth??? I am sending them a note tomorrow reminding them of the deal of him staying after school.  Its not good to break his routine seeing he is autistic. Also 1/2 hour of PE is mandatory in school.  He needs to exercise break. Also lunch is a break he needs and he is entitled too. Argh... Even adults get a break at work.  I actually stayed calm the whole time he was carrying on, so proud of myself for not yelling :)   He also tried to push his luck going to bed tonight but ended up going to bed without too much problem.  He figured he should still get his bribe (Jello) even though he layed on the floor for at least half an hour after I said if you get dressed I will make Jello while u are at school. Maybe I forgot to say if you get dressed right away?  He finally left for school about 9:30 and got to school about an hour late.  He says he is not going to school tomorrow  even though he had a better day today. My prayer for tomorrow, Dear God,  Please let tomorrow morning be easier than today.

Merry Christmas and a happy new year! (and a bit of an update)

Well, next year has got to be better than this year.  I am having an easier time with the separation. I feel able to move on.  I cant get a divorce till June 23 next year because of the waiting a year rule but I will for sure do that. Maybe I will have one of those divorce parties lol.  Well, I'm not sure how I feel about Christmas this year.  Mixed feelings I guess.  This is the first year in 3 years I will not be with a partner. I guess I'm feeling lonely.  I know I am not in love with my ex anymore, that faded with all the crap he put us through.  We are going away this Christmas to the kids bio-dads parents who treat me like family so I am looking forward to that.   It should be a nice vacation and a much needed one.  I feel bad for my ex because he will be working for Christmas and most likely be alone but I can't do anything about that as I cant take responsibility for his happiness.  I care about him as a person but at the same time I can't give him false hope. Well, tomorrow I am leaving for vacation. I just wanted to stop by and update and wish all of you a merry Christmas and a happy new year!

I better blog before people think I fell off the earth!

Everything has been pretty good around here. I feel mean but I am not having too hard of a time with this whole separation. At first it was hard when he lived here but we were separated for about a week and a half but when he left the stress went way down. Maybe it is because I knew it was coming and it was my choice to leave? Basically my (ex) husband is not good with my autistic kids and is not willing to learn. He thinks when I tell him why they do things it is just an excuse. My happy go lucky son Billy bob was turning into an angry frustrated guy because of the ex. That was the first thing that got me really thinking. There was no physical abuse but there were other issues that I don't feel comfortable sharing. We have separated 2 other times before the last time. The last time was just the last straw. We went to marriage counseling and parenting groups and nothing got better. I figure you cant kick a dead horse. I thought about it for at least a month or more before I broke it off. This is not a decision I took lightly so please don't tell me to keep trying or it will get better. I know it will get better without him not with him.
I don't know when the rest of the world starts school but it seems like all my bloggy friends from different places have their kids already is school. My kids don't go to school till September 7. When do your kids end the school year? My kids end at the end of June.

Moving...

To the suite below us, smaller suite. Can't afford this one with lower income. Moving is a pain. Sorry, haven't found the words for more than a short update yet.

Changes

Broken marriage and moving. Sorry for being gone so long. Will blog more about that when I am up to it. Thanks

Big plans this weekend!

Today chiropractor for all of this. Tomorrow, behavior interventionist is taking the boys(and I'm coming along because its the first outing) for therapeutic horseback riding After their horseback riding the bi will drop me off and the boys will do something with their new bi. Saturday is my hubbies big 50!!!! I'm only 36 for the record lol. My hubby and I will go out for his free birthday lunch then big family dinner in the evening with his mom and my parents and bros and a couple friends. Then Sunday hopefully we will get to relax. I'll let you know how it goes!
What are you planning for the weekend?

Another day...

Another fight! The door is starting to look pretty good lately.