Thursday, August 26, 2010

I better blog before people think I fell off the earth!

Everything has been pretty good around here. I feel mean but I am not having too hard of a time with this whole separation. At first it was hard when he lived here but we were separated for about a week and a half but when he left the stress went way down. Maybe it is because I knew it was coming and it was my choice to leave? Basically my (ex) husband is not good with my autistic kids and is not willing to learn. He thinks when I tell him why they do things it is just an excuse. My happy go lucky son Billy bob was turning into an angry frustrated guy because of the ex. That was the first thing that got me really thinking. There was no physical abuse but there were other issues that I don't feel comfortable sharing. We have separated 2 other times before the last time. The last time was just the last straw. We went to marriage counseling and parenting groups and nothing got better. I figure you cant kick a dead horse. I thought about it for at least a month or more before I broke it off. This is not a decision I took lightly so please don't tell me to keep trying or it will get better. I know it will get better without him not with him.
I don't know when the rest of the world starts school but it seems like all my bloggy friends from different places have their kids already is school. My kids don't go to school till September 7. When do your kids end the school year? My kids end at the end of June.

5 comments:

Tanya @ TeenAutism said...

My kids start Sept. 8, so it's nice to have a little bit of summer left.

You know in your heart what is the right thing to do, and it sounds like you made the right decision about your ex. But it's never easy. Thinking of you during this time and hoping that things even out for you soon.

Christy said...

Saw you on Corey's blog. My oldest son (almost age 18) was diagnosed so severely autistic at age 2 that the doctors recommended we institutionalize him, saying he would "never function in society". God healed him less than two years later (praise God!). It was a terribly long and dark 3-3/4 years --- I cannot imagine having TWO autistic children (and being alone to boot). Are you familar with ABA?

Be blessed today!
---Christy

Fighting for my Children said...

Christy,

Im pretty sure our first behavior consultant and subsequent behavior interventionists practiced ABA. I'd like to read your blog. Can you message me your blog addy in my comment section with a note on whether or not you want it posted? If you don't I wont publish it. I screen my comments, just in case :)
Im glad to hear you were able to get such good help for your son.

Thanks

Claire louise said...

Hi Hun
I'm popping by to thank you for support my blog and also in regards to your comment for Tad.
As far as I'm aware Tad doesn't have a blog (hence reason I didn't supple a link) However Tad will be forwarded all messages, this means your links to this wonderful blog (I must add) Tad is a fantastic woman, and I know she will likely make some time to pop by your blog and say hello. If u have facebook you can look up Tad Auty and add her to your friends list.

Fantastic post as always huni:)
regards Claire louise.

Fighting for my Children said...

I added tad auty on fb. thanks Claire